It has been a good few years since we had a new baby in my maternal family. I was delighted to go and visit the latest arrival, Violet, last weekend. She was delivered by C-section, and I am pleased to report that Mum and baby are both doing really well.
The added joy of seeing the new baby was that she is named after my mother, Violet, and also my grandmother, Rose. As I have never had children, it made me feel very happy to know that my own mother’s name will live on in this new addition to our family, and I know that my Mum would have been touched beyond belief.
Then this morning, along came the sadness. Violet’s great-grandfather, and my last surviving uncle, passed away after a long illness, at the age of 87. He never got a chance to see Violet before he died, but at least he heard about her being born, and had seen a photo.
R.I.P. Ivan Cowburn.
The circle of life continues.
Peace be there ✌️
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Thanks very much, Nishtha.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Life feels much more precious when we lose someone, or when another is born. I hope that you can get through your difficult time. Reminds me of a scripture that provides hope.
Revelation 21:4 says, “And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” ❤
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Thanks for your kind words, Richelle.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Wonderful post.
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Thanks very much, I am glad that you liked it.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Great post 🙂 As others have implied on this post, this year for you brought joy within your family (the birth of a child) and sadness (the death of a relative). Anyway, keep up the great work as always 🙂
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Thanks, John. We have the funeral four days before Christmas.
Mixed emotions, at what is supposed to be a happy time for most people.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Rest in peace Ivan. Any interesting stories about him Pete?
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Well his name was always a talking point. During the Cold War, that Russian name was never going to be popular, so he went by his middle name of Benjamin, which the family shortened in the way Londoners always do. First he was Benjy, then that became Benj. That was used for so long, a lot of the family never knew his name was really Ivan. 🙂
He was an electrician, and spent much of his life in London’s theatreland, working on changing the outdated electrics of many famous theatres. Back then, theatres contained huge amounts of asbestos, as fire retardant. Before they could work on the wiring, they had to strip out all the crumbling asbestos coverings from the old stuff.
That gave him asbestosis, which he was unaware of at the start. But it eventually killed him, over sixty years later.
Best wishes, Pete.
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It sounds like an interesting life and a good man. Best wishes Pete.
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I don’t need to tell you this but a particular painful way to go and tragic that it occurred at all.
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Indeed it was, Lloyd. He was a great father to three kids, and has many grandchildren too.
Nobody ever had a bad word to say about him. A life well-lived.
Best wishes, Pete.
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This is very bitter sweet indeed Pete, my condolences on your loss and wishes to Violet Rose. You are quite right, the circle of life.
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Thanks very much, Lloyd.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Best wishes Pete.
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So sorry about your uncle and congratulations on the new little one!
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Sometimes it works that way!
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That’s very true, Valerie. Thanks for reading, and leaving a comment.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A beautiful baby Pete and bittersweet as you say.. sorry about your uncle but pleased he got to see the lovely violet’ photo. and a good and long life well lived.
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Thanks very much, Sally. It was exactly as you say. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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That is bittersweet news. So sorry for your loss. Congratulations on the new arrival!
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Thanks, Maddy. It did have an appropriate sense of ‘balance’. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Welcome to the world Violet 😉 xx
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Thanks as always, Jack.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I am so sorry for your lose Beetley Pete. And as the circle of life goes on, you have a most beautiful baby to love. I am sure you will enjoy watching all of Violet Rose’s adventures as she grows!
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Thanks very much, Joan. My uncle was happy to know that Violet had arrived, and also to be free of pain.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Congratulations Pete! Violet Rose is indeed a wonderful name. Sad to hear about your uncles death. Maybe its true, and one life has to end before another one is able to begin? ;-( Best wishes, Michael
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Thanks, Michael. I have no doubt little Violet will bring joy to our family.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Congratulations. She is so beautiful and Violet Rose is a lovely name.
So sorry for your loss though.
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Thanks very much, Abbi. It seems that the arrival of Violet was fated, to ease the pain of losing my uncle. It taught us all that life continues regardless.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Congrats and a fitting tribute to your mother and grandmother……very cute and a full head of hair….chuq
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Thanks, chuq. She certainly does have a lot of hair! 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Violet Rose is just as lovely as her name. I’m so sorry for the loss of your uncle though Pete.
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Thanks, Kim. He was ready to go at least, and now out of pain.
Best wishes, Pete.
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My mom died the same year I bore my first child. I went through pain and life did moves on. My son is now 6 years old.
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Thanks for adding your own story. You are right of course, life does move on.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A lovely baby. My dad died the same year my first grandchild was born. It really does make you understand generations in a deep way.
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Thanks, Elizabeth. I have heard it described as ‘shuffling the deck’, and I get that.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Good phrase, especially since my dad and I played a lot of cards.
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Others have already expressed my sentiments. I would just like to say that you are fortunate to have so many family connections.
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Thanks, David. Despite having no siblings, I do have a lot of cousins on both sides, so there is a relatively large family around still.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A very lovely name Pete, the two go so well together and what a wonderful way to remember the women in your family. I am sure Violet Rose will grow up learning a lot about them both, hopefully with some tales from you – time to write a memoir maybe? Sorry to hear about your uncle, often the way life and death go in partnership, and yet another funeral for you to attend. That suit is getting far too many airings. I’m up in Shropshire now and helping with the somewhat stressful process that my OH is going through. Doesn’t matter how old you are, losing a parent is hard.
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That’s so true. It doesn’t matter how old they are, or how much you are expecting it, the reality is rarely what you expect.
I think there is enough of the family remaining to tell the stories to little Violet, including her own mother. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Ah, but you have some great tales. Maybe get the stories on the blog put into a book.
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Welcome, Violet Rose. She looks lovely and I’m sure she will bring plenty of joy to the family. Sad to hear about your uncle. The cycle of life, as you say. All the best.
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Thanks, Olga. It was sad to lose him, but it was his time, undoubtedly.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Oh Pete, this is certainly joy and sadness. How wonderful that this baby is named for your mother and grandmother. And of course death is always difficult. As you said, the circle of life. Best to you, Pete.
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Thanks, Jennie. We just have to see it for what it is, and accept the sadness along with the joy. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Well said. Best to you, Pete.
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What a beautiful baby, Pete!
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I’m not usually a ‘baby person’, but I have to give her credit, I confess. 🙂
Thanks, Sue.
Best wishes, Pete.
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😊😊
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Violet Rose is lovely! God bless you, Pete!
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Thanks very much. She is indeed a treasure.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Joy and sadness, an emotional tug-of-war.
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Indeed it is. Thanks, GP.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I’m so sorry, Pete, but, as you say, the circle of life goes on. So congratulations, a beautiful baby, with a most lovely name.
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Thanks, Marina. Such is life, and we all have to move on, and celebrate.
Best wishes, Pete.
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My mother now has five great grandchildren, but my father did not live to see any. However great grandson number three has his middle name after him. My mother, my daughter and myself share the same middle name. It’s good to have family name links, especially for women who mostly lose their family surname!
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Thanks, TS. The surname is not the same of course, but having my mother’s and grandmother’s names continuing on in the family is genuinely heartwarming.
Best wishes, Pete.
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She looks a real cracker Pete, but sorry to hear about your uncle.
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Thanks, Eddy. She is lovely, and my uncle is out of a world of pain and drugs at long last.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Babies represent hope.
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Thanks, Doug. We don’t get that many in the family these days, so it does feel good to have a new addition.
Best wishes, Pete.
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She’s a cutie. I love the names Violet Rose – so beautifully old fashioned and with real meaning in the family. Sorry about the death of your uncle.
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Thanks, Mary. Because Violet is so old-fashioned, we doubted anyone would ever get that name again. But Violet’s young mum was close to my mother, so wanted to call her that as soon as she got the gender from the scan. It made me cry.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Sorry to hear about your Uncle, but happy to see the beautiful Violet making her first appearance on the blog, hopefully there’ll be some more, she is a sweety and congrats on not having a Winston Churchill lookalike!
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I think she missed that ‘Churchillian’ look by being born by section. She didn’t have to crush her face to get out! 🙂
Thanks, FR.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A gorgeous baby with a beautiful name. Violet Rose. Stunning. She has been added to the circle strengthening the link that was weakened by your uncle’s passing.
It is hard to loose those touchstones of family. I know all too well. I’m sorry.
–Pam
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Thanks, Pam. Violet’s arrival has helped greatly with the loss of my uncle.
I am now the oldest male member of my family, (on both sides) which is a sobering thought.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Much to give thanks for what a beauty!
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Thanks, Felicity. She is perfect indeed, and a real tiny bundle of joy. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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joy and sadness side by side…
Violet Rose is such a lovely baby. ❤
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Thanks, Kerin. She is indeed a sweetie! 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Wow Pete, I’m so sorry for your loss. Life can sometimes be incredibly strange, to bring joy on one end, and bring sadness on the other.
I do want to congratulate you as well on the birth of Violet, and am glad to hear that she is and her mother are doing well.
Please take care Pete, I’m very sorry.
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Thanks, Michel. We can concentrate on the bright side, and enjoy welcoming Violet.
Life goes on, despite the sadness.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Benj has been in my thoughts all day long. The thought of all the amazing stories he had being lost is so sad. He lit up a room with that devilishly naughty twinkle he forever seemed to have in his eyes. The laughing at his own stories as he relived them telling us was a treat to behold. I know it’s an old saying but never has a truer word been spoke when you can honestly say “they don’t make them like that anymore”. RIP Benji x
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Cheers for that, Terry. His chuckle will never be forgotten by those of us who heard it. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Congratulations on the birth of the lovely Violet Rose. And condolences on the loss of your uncle Pete. So sorry these events followed one another.
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Thanks, Susanne. Somehow, it seems appropriate for the old to give way to the newborn.
As I said, it’s the circle of life. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Sorry that such joy had to come with some pain as well, Pete
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Thanks, John. In life, that is usually the way of things.
Best wishes, Pete.
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You are absolutely right, Pete
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Thanks, Sue. From long experience. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Me too
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Man, life can be so lovely and so cruel.
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Very true mate.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Violet is a beautiful baby. But so sad to hear about your uncle.
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