Today would have been my Mum’s 95th birthday. The photo below shows her at her 70th, twenty-five years ago.
She died in March 2012, aged 87.
It was a hard and painful death, and very uncomfortable to watch, I assure you.
But then she had endured a hard life, with her teenage years spent during WW2 in London. Then in 1947, she married my Dad, and he didn’t give her a very easy time. She worked for most of her life, from the age of 14, until she was 75. She had a work ethic, and didn’t like to feel like she was being lazy. Despite my Dad’s numerous affairs, she stuck by him. Then when he finally left her for another woman, in 1976, she stuck by me.
After he was gone, she never once went out with another man, despite being the relatively young age of 52 at the time. She devoted her life to her family, her numerous pets, and to me. She worked hard at trying to run her own business, twice. When that failed, she got work as a housekeeper for rich people in the countryside. After that, she worked as a domestic cleaner, and did ironing too, right up until she reached the age of 75, and illnesses stopped her working.
She was a devoted Mum, aunt, sister, cousin, and friend too. When she died, not only family grieved her loss, but the community she lived in as well.
An accomplished baker, knitter, and talented on the sewing machine, there was very little that she didn’t turn her hand to, in a life lived to the full. She was political too, as a long-term member of the Labour Party, and a committed Socialist. And even at the age of 70, as shown in the photo, she cared about her appearance, and still held down three part-time jobs.
She was everything anyone could have asked for in a Mum. And in an aunt, sister, or cousin.
And she will never be forgotten, I promise you that.
Violet Anne Johnson. (nee Pallen) 1924-2012. Rest in peace, my beloved Mum.
You can see the resemblance.
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Thanks, Lloyd. There is a very obvious family resemblance in all my maternal family.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Rest in peace Violet, you were quite a woman.
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What a beautiful tribute. You made me love and admire your mom
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That’s very kind of you to say so, Michele.
Best wishes, Pete. 🙂
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Memories never fade..if people that matter. She sounded a wonderful lady.
Take care.
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Thanks, John. It often feels as if she is still here.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A wonderful reminiscence and tribute. She really sounds a great lady, and if i may say, you are liooking like her. Michael
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Thanks, Michael. Yes, we are very much alike.
Best wishes, Pete.
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😉
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A fine tribute Pete, I love her smile, I’m sure she could make any bad day a good one.
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She did like to see the funny side of life mate. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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I just started smiling when I saw her photo. She had that kind of inviting face. Thanks for introducing her to us on her birthday.
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Thanks, Elizabeth. I think you would have liked her. She was always so friendly, and very welcoming. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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A heartfelt and lovely tribute to your Mum, Pete.
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Thanks, Jennie. Her birthday was always a special day.
Best wishes, Pete.
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That’s so nice. Best to you, Pete.
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So beautiful Pete.
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Thanks, Susanne. She deserves to be remembered, and that’s my job. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Well done, Pete. I thoroughly enjoyed reading about your mom. Perhaps this is where you inherited your work ethic. Here is a piece I wrote about my mom last week: https://petespringerauthor.wordpress.com/2019/07/01/memories-of-mom/
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Compared to my Mum, I led a relatively lazy life, Pete. 🙂
I will read your link soon.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Nothing to add Pete. Beautiful done.
Regards
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Thanks, Frank. You know about these things, I get that.
Best wishes, Pete.
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What lovely things to say about your mother. She sounds wonderful, absolutely wonderful. God bless. Kx
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Thanks very much, Katie. I like to give her praise now, as she never asked for nor accepted any during her life.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Yes, celebrate her life through remembering birthdays! Sounds like she was a devoted family person – and still very much her own person.
Best wishes to you from across the pond.
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Thanks, Laura. She was independent indeed, and often stubborn. But she never let anyone down, in 87 years.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Nice tribute Pete as you say never forgotten mums always have that special place in our hearts which only gets larger
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Thanks, Bobby. You had a great Mum too. I remember her really well.
Cheers, Pete.
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I see your eyes in her face. Happy Birthday to your Mum!
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Thanks, Cindy. Yes, everyone in my maternal family looks very alike. Easy to tell we are related. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete. x
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What a lovely tribute to your Mum, Pete. A beautiful woman in and out. 🙂
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Thanks, Wilma. She never let anything get her down. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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You have always spoken so warmly of your mum and the love you felt and still feel for her radiates through your writing. This is a lovely tribute.
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Thanks, Abbi. She became a great friend to me in later life, as well as a devoted Mum. I like to remember her on this blog, as well as my own thoughts of her every day too.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Obviously, she was a warmhearted lady, and tough as nails, too.
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Right on both counts. 🙂
Thanks, David.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A lovely tribute to a very special woman in your life Pete. They bred them tough in those days. I think now many people expect everything handed to them on a plate and instant gratification instead of working for things. No wonder society is full of stressed people – so many with large debts and houses full of the latest gadgets!
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She never even owned a credit card, Jude. And despite living on just the state pension, she saved more money than I ever managed to. Self-discipline, and realistic expectations. She was happiest with a cat on her lap, and a dog lying by the side of her chair. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete. x
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My parents never had a credit card either nor hire purchase. My mother saved until she could buy whatever it was she wanted.
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What a beautiful tribute Pete!
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Thanks very much, Kim. Mum’s birthday was always a special day. She loved to get a very large card, with lots of pages. She would sit and read them all, as if I had written the verses inside. Before she died, she showed me that she had kept every card I ever sent her. She said she wanted them burned with her, in her coffin. But that wasn’t ‘allowed’.
Best wishes, Pete.
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That was the greatest tribute to a Mum, I have seen in a long time. She went through so much in her life, yet continued to be all she could be for others, rather than herself.
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Thanks, Ron. I tried my best to sum her up, in one short post.
She was indeed all of those things, and I was lucky to have her.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Beautiful words for your beautiful mum. Our mums had a way of making the difficult times seem effortless, didn’t they? I am sure she would be pleased seeing you acknowledge she was so much more than the trials she faced. You were blessed with a special lady as a mother and she was blessed with a special lad for a son. Thank you for sharing such sweet memories, Pete.
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Thanks very much, Maggie. We have both had some difficult anniversaries to remember this week.
Best wishes as always, Pete.
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Very touching. What a great woman!
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Thank you, Charlie. I thought she was a real ‘trouper’.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Thanks for sharing memories of your wonderful mother, Pete.
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Thanks, Becky. This was always a special date for us.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A great tribute to a woman well worth the world remembering. Well said, my friend. Warmest regards, Theo
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Thanks, Theo. Now that my cousin’s baby has been named after her, I hope that her memory will live on long after I am gone. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Lovely tribute Pete
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Thank you, June. Her birthday was always a special day for us. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Your mum was very pretty, Pete. She was obviously a very special–very talented–lady. You are fortunate to have her as your mother.
–Pam
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Thanks very much, Pam. I was lucky indeed. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Great tribute to a great lady. Nicely done Pete.
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Thanks, FR. Her birthday was always something special to us.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A lovely remembrance post, Pete. She sounds like a great woman, and she reminds me of my mum mine (she’s still working, although she thinks she is taking it easy, and she can turn her hand at anything. And she’s always been stylish. I don’t take after her). Thanks for sharing, Pete. I’ll be thinking of you both today.
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Thanks, Olga. Glad to hear that your Mum is now well enough to have got back to work.
Best wishes, Pete.
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You Mom sounds like a strong, loving woman. You were lucky to have her. Happy Birthday, Violet!
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Many thanks, GP. I was lucky indeed.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A lovely tribute to your mum, Pete
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Thanks, Sue. We always had a big celebration on her birthday. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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What a perfect tribute to a fine woman. I can see from the picture she was a strong and kind person. How fortunate you are to have had her in your life. xo
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Thanks for those kind words, Darlene.
Best wishes, Pete.
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A lovely tribute, Pete. Your mum and mine were born in the same year, although mine died in March 2017, and by then she had been on her own for 40 years. I think women born in that era had a much harder life than their daughters and granddaughters, although they were probably physically stronger. My mum could beat me at arm wrestling right up until the age of about 85! Yes, we miss our mums, but we have some good memories.
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Thanks, Stevie. Whenever I think of the women of that generation, the word ‘doughty’ always comes to mind.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Yes, doughty’s a good one. Also stoic, with a willingness to endure hardship that the young people don’t seem to have these days.
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A beautiful person…..I am sorry for your loss. chuq
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Thanks, chuq. Even after seven years, it feels like she still might call me on the phone.
Best wishes, Pete.
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My mother died in 1979 and I feel the same way…there are times I expect her to walk thru my door and start asking where her granddaughter is….chuq
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From wherever such people like that reside in the corners of heaven.. she’s knows how you feel, old chum, and I’m sure she’s proud of the boy she raised. A nice reflection to pass on to the rest of us to make us appreciate our own mums who have passed on. She was a charming lady in many ways. Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks, Doug. I know not everyone has pleasant memories of close relatives, but I was lucky.
Best wishes, Pete.
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What a lovely tribute to your Mum Pete. She is a beauty.
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Thanks, Arlene. I think of her every day of course, but like to always celebrate her birthday.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Our mums are special Pete. But I was closer to my dad when he was alive.
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