Looking after Mum

After the post remembering my Mum’s birthday this week, I was interested to see something similar on the blog of American writer, Pete Springer. That reminded me of this post from 2013, which few of you have seen before. Anyone who has ever cared for an elderly relative might be able to identify with this.


When I was young, my Mum was always there. She worked hard, looking after the house, cooking and cleaning, and doing all the washing and ironing. In addition to this, she also had a full-time job, and looked in on her own parents, as well as her sisters and brother. She rarely told me off, always seemed pleased to see me, and gave me constant encouragement in my school work, reading, and the development of my imagination. If I was ill, she tended me, sitting up all night by my bed if need be. She worried constantly about my eating, to the extent of overfeeding me, and making sure I always had sweets, and any other treats I desired. Though not a spoilt child, I was certainly a well-nurtured one.

As I got older, she continued in kind. When I was on school holidays, she arranged for her mother to…

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19 thoughts on “Looking after Mum

  1. Sorry Pete, sounds like a rough time for both of you. But I think you honored your mother and took care of her the best you could. That’s all anyone could ask and I’m sure she appreciated it even though she wasn’t herself anymore and couldn’t let you know.

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  2. She sounds the sort of mum I hope to be to my children, and I hope they think so fondly of me in years to come. Don’t be too hard on yourself for her latter years, it’s hard work juggling work, travel and life in general with caring as well – sounds like you managed it very well! πŸ™‚

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  3. Dear Pete,
    your short text about your mum moved us quite a bit. It’s so important to to keep a warm place in your heart for your mum. C.G. Jung once wrote as older a man gets as more it’s important for his wellbeing to develop his female side – the ‘anima’. And it’s our mothers who shape our anima.
    We wish you a great weekend
    The Fab Four of Cley
    πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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  4. Well that made me shed a tear. Phil had a similar experience with his mum, who he considers was his best friend, whereas his dad was not, and she had a hard ending. My own mum too took 2 years to die of cancer, and trying to look after her when I was a working single mum living an hour away wasn’t easy or even possible sometimes, the guilt was so horrendous I shut off even thinking about her for many years after she died. You did the very best you could Pete, she sounds like the best of mums. X

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