Age and emotions

I found this post from my early days of blogging, back in 2012. It has had very few views, and just one comment. It was interesting for me to read it again, and to reflect on how I felt at the time.
Seven years later, much of it is still relevant.
Some of it even more so.

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What is it about age and emotion? It seems to be on a sliding scale; as you get older, you become emotionally labile. Some days, I feel consumed by nostalgia, reverie, and reflection. Old films make me feel blue, and I can experience waves of sadness washing over me, for no apparent reason. I constantly look back over my life, re-evaluating past deeds, and regretting not doing others.

This is all a very new thing. Ten years ago, I got through the day, had a bottle of wine, and considered myself lucky to still be here.Β  There was no time in my life for regrets, and self-criticism; I would have considered it a luxury that I could not afford to indulge in. Analysing things in the past can be very self-destructive, and is generally not to be recommended. Wallowing inΒ  nostalgia is usually unproductive, at the best of times.

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38 thoughts on “Age and emotions

  1. Hey Pete, as a recent retiree living alone I can relate to your increased onslaught of past memories. I myself have had trouble with reoccurring bad or unpleasant memories from the past but now recognize them (after researching for my blog post) as a brain function instead of a haunting memory that I deserve. In this context its easier for me to deal with them. When they start to appear I yell “Stop” out loud then mentally tell myself not to go there and that I am in control of what I want to remember.

    The more you recall a (bad?) memory the stronger the pathway becomes in your brain. So you may never be rid of these unwanted memories but perhaps with practice, stopping them before they get started will help, as it has helped me. Pleasant memories Pete!

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    1. Thanks very much for your thoughts, Corky. I am learning to deal with all this stuff, and to work out why I think a lot about some things, but not others. I suspect it is all a part of growing older.
      Best wishes, Pete.

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  2. i try to get occupied and most of the time my hands are full. given that, i always make an effort to look back once in a while. review the past, if you will, and this makes me humble and grateful. one way of course is reading old posts. and yes, some are still relevant. others i wish i would’ve done otherwise. but not regrets…only lessons to learn and the resolve to make it better or right.
    great post as always, Pete! thank you!

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  3. The original comes from 2012. It’s almost a decade later. Do you still feel blue and critical of yourself? Forgive yourself and remember whatever happened is in the past. It made you who you are today, and you have to admit, you are loved by many on the blogosphere. I am sure you are in your “real” life, too.

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    1. Thanks, Cindy. It is interesting for me to reflect on this, seven years later. I was going through some emotional turmoil back then, for sure.
      Things have calmed down a lot, but I still have a few ‘bad days’.
      Best wishes, Pete. x

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  4. You had a lot to deal with then Pete, and moving to a country location from an enormous city must have been a bit of a shock, no matter how much you thought it to be the right choice. I have been through some pretty tough times in my life, but I tend to deal with whatever is thrown at me and get on with it on my own. I’m not sure if that has made me the rather solitary person I am today or whether I was always like that. I don’t tend to dwell on the past or the future, rather live for the now. I realise from your blogging that you do get melancholy at times, as long as it doesn’t subsume you I would say that is OK.

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  5. I’ve been feeling like that lately. Thinking about past decisions, how things could’ve been if I had taken other paths, how much time, energy and money I wasted on things that weren’t worth it and how little I gave myself in situations that were good for me. I wonder if it’s age or it’s something else that has been making me feel like this…

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    1. It didn’t start to affect me that much until I stopped working, at the age of 60. But since then, such reflections are hard to keep out of my mind. I have managed to stop dwelling on them too much, which was what I was doing back in 2012. But it is still very much a case of ‘good days, bad days’.
      Best wishes, Pete.

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  6. Ah, so it’s an agreed thing….I’ve always blamed it on the MS… No, truthfully, it can be either of those and more…but the biggest thing is not being occupied, having your mind engaged in work or whatever that leaves no time for stray πŸ’­

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