You know how when you can do something, you just don’t understand why someone else can’t?
I once worked with a woman who failed her driving test no less than eight times. She had paid for over one hundred lessons, and finally gave up trying after her eighth fail. The rest of us could all drive, and were amazed at her inability to be able to do something that was second nature to us. I asked her why, and she said “I just don’t get it. It doesn’t sink in. They show me one week and I do it, but the next time I have forgotten what I have to do, or it feels different”.
I don’t know how to swim. People find that amazing. All my life, people have told me, “It’s so easy to swim. I could teach you in minutes”. My first wife was a champion swimmer, and she tried to teach me to swim on numerous occasions. But whether it was being uncomfortable in the water, or lack of coordination, I just didn’t get it. It never felt right, and I didn’t seem to move the same way in water as everyone else.
During my working life, I frequently met adults who could not read and write. I was surprised, to say the least. Did they not go to school? How were they allowed to progress into adulthood without some extra tuition? One evening, I asked an illiterate man in the back of my ambulance how that could happen. He shrugged. “The taught me, they showed me, but I just didn’t get it. It didn’t sink in”.
So I have learned a fact of life, over the past fifty-odd years. Just because someone thinks something is easy to learn, that doesn’t mean it is.
You all know what I am talking about, I’m sure.
Well said, Pete, and true.
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Thanks, Jennie. Three of the most discouraging words can be “It is easy”.
Best wishes, Pete
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Exactly right!
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There are so many types of intelligence and we all excel in different ones. I can’t drive and I have terrible issues with direction. I can swim though at least and I find technology fairly simple.
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Yes, it does seem we all have different talents, and some of those just cannot be learned by those who do not have them.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I just don’t get it. (Kidding)
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I was waiting for someone to do that. đ đ
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I am probably the only one who forgot swimming. How? I just don’t get it.đ
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And I never got it in the first place. đ
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I can’t carry a tune to anyone’s satisfaction but my own.
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I think most of us sound pretty good, inside our own heads. đ
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Or in the bath! Great acoustics with the tile.
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So true Pete! But we should not regret. I am sure, when we are in need of some knowledge we will be able to learn. Michael
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We cannot always learn something we just don’t understand, Michael.
Or else everyone would be a genius!
Best wishes, Pete.
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Thats true, Pete! If we really in need, i am sure one is able to learn. As most people in danger for life have been able to swim.
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I drowned as a child, and did not swim. I had to be resuscitated.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Me too, Pete! One tried to do it again, and had to rescue me again. During military service it was enough to say it. They had not tried treating me. Michael
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If it wasn’t for Jeopardy, there’s lots I would not know. đ
My theory; all of mankind is one body. We each have a different part and each part works together. Even butt holes have a purpose. I just wish some butt hole folks would stay unseen and unheard.
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I like the way you put that, Xena.
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Love the subtlety, Pete! đ
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Thanks, Mona. đ
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I get frustrated easily with technology things. I am willing to quit before I find a solution. Having people help me is something I am used to needing. There are many things I cannot do. I was once asked to please stop coming to a dance class because no matter what, I could not get it.
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I tried so many things when I was younger, and spent anxious years feeling like I had failed in all of them.
Best wishes, Pete.
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We all have things we excel at or are challenging for us. When it comes to technology, most people have a much better intuitive sense than I do.
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I have had so many hours of frustration with tech. If it hadn’t been for friends and fellow bloggers, I woul cetainly never have carried on blogging after my first few attempts.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I don’t get video games. I find the graphics, and the connection of the game controller buttons to what happens on the screen disorienting. Husband has tried to show me how to play, but it doesn’t stick.
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I could just about play Mario Kart years ago, but I never won a race. đ
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There are lots of things I don’t get. I can drive, I can swim, I can lie (tell stories). I can’t cook, clean, or worry about other people’s opinions. I don’t see the colours other people see, I don’t hear music the way they do. I can’t get the rhythm to dance or prance, but those things don’t stop me enjoying the way I see my world, and that’s what counts.
I’ve taught hundreds of people to drive, showed them how to read and write (yes, even those who thought they didn’t get it — everyone has a view and once you find the way they view, they get it).
I get it. I really do. Except for the things I don’t. But life is short, and I’m not going to worry it to the end.
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Thanks for your own take on this, CD.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Seems like a primer for those who don’t get how anyone could vote for Donald Trump (including me).
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That qualifies too, MM. đ
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Yep, thatâs music and me
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Seems to be a few of us, Sue.
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I read through the comments expecting someone to reply, “I don’t get it.” No one did. I guess we all get it. đ Warmest regards, Theo
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I expected that too.
Great minds…
Best wishes, Pete.
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there are so many things i cannot do. things that i tried to learn but just cannot get it. things that are simple, second nature to others, but for some reason my body cannot follow. đ đ
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That sounds like my life story, Wilma.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I relate to the driving, maybe its because I just started learning and having to drive often. I also relate to the swimming struggle but I think for me its just fear. Maybe its fear in both cases.
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Fear doesn’t help, that’s for sure.
Best wishes, Pete.
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As someone else pointed out, I can’t dance. I couldn’t tell you what that flower is – a rose, maybe a tulip, that’s it. My mother-in-law said “everyone knows flowers” and I just looked at her and said, “not EVERYONE.” That said, I can tell you every best picture winner for the past 50 years. Some things stick, some don’t! And I’d rather watch “The Godfather” one more time than plant an Orchid!
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I can tell a bald cypress tree from a Joshua tree!
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The same goes for me, John.
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Hear. Hear.
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(1) I once took introductory dance lessons. My body didn’t cooperate.
(2) I tried roller skating and ice skating a few times, but had to run into something to stop.
(3) When I was young, I did a bit of water skiing. I tried to snow ski one time, but found I couldn’t make a turn without falling on my face.
But had I pursued any of these activities, I’m sure I would eventually have done reasonably well at them.
When I was in elementary school, I was assigned to play trombone. I practiced a lot, and played well. But in my third year of school (7th Grade), I had a mean instructor who on at least one occasion struck me really hard on the head with his wooden baton. He was convinced I was making mistakes when, in fact, it was the player next to me. My parents took action, and withdrew me from the class. I never took up another instrument after that, although I do want to eventually learn how to play a Yamaha keyboard that I received as a Christmas gift a few years ago.
Years after receiving my M.A. in French Literature, I decided to get a degree in Mathematics. I was curious to see if my brain could successfully branch off in that direction. Due to a failing first marriage that would eventually end in divorce, I had to call it quits just a few college credits short of the degree, but I got through analytical geometry and differential calculus with flying colors. It wasn’t until my last course that I finally received a grade lower than an A. Although I was disappointed in the B I earned in Linear Algebra, I was convinced that had I been able to continue another semester, I would have pocketed that Math degree.
I also came within an inch of getting an M.A. in Education, but was again derailed by personal circumstances. At least I attended enough classes to acquire K-8 teacher certification, which allowed me to teach elementary school until I got sick of the system and bailed.
In short, I’m keenly aware that I have physical and intellectual limitations. But that doesn’t mean I can’t get my feet wet, and maybe even wade into the water a good distance.
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That’s a good positive attitude, David. I am sure that part of learning a new skill is a desire to do so. Not having that desire is the first hurdle to negotiate.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Itâs okay Peteđ Of course I know what you are talking about here. I always have trouble with numbers, never been my strongest at thatđ
Luckilye the classic editor is still there Pete, and you are still with us, which for me is the most important thingđ
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Thanks, Michel. đ
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Tech and math give me the most problems.
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They are connected of course, which may explain both of us having those issues.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Me, too! Sometimes, where tech is involved, I just don’t even bother.
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Iâm definitely a right brain thinker.đ
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I wonder if it isn´t some kind of mental block. I never learned to type. I´ve taken classes in school and later as an adult but still can´t do it. I´ve written 8 books with two fingers. Weird, I know. BTW I never learned to play the piano or swim either.
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I am sure that our brains are wired differently, Darlene. There are some things that not everyone can just be taught.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I’ve thought at times, that I just have a natural mental block to learning some things. Strange how that can vary by person.
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That has been the story of my life, Ron. đ
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I never learned how to swim like you. And I haven’t tried learning how to drive too.
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Everyone has their own strengths, Arlene. We don’t all have to be able to be good at the same things.
Best wishes, Pete.
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There are so many things I cannot do. I remember when I was a young manager getting frustrated with my older crew who almost refused to try to learn new technology. I get it now. We are tired of the newest, latest and greatest tech thing. We have been through it too many times. For me, though, the drive to keep writing and connecting is enough to push me onward. I now understand why so many people simply write in Word and then copy and paste it into their blog.
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I don’t even have Word, Maggie. đ
Something else I didn’t want to have to learn!
Best wishes, Pete.
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Maggie, that’s what I’ve been doing — copying and pasting — until today. It just didn’t work the same way, and (to my mind) there were lots of glitches.
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I still don’t know how to get my photos from my camera onto my computer. I just had the camera to Jon. I have ‘idiot guides’ to remind me how to do all kinds of tech things.
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I can do that by putting the memory card in the slot, and only because it then prompts me what to do. But I have never been able to get photos from a phone onto the computer so far!
Best wishes, Pete.
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As a teacher, I am faced with this on a daily basis. I personally “don’t get math”. I have the ability of a 10 year old.
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I never got Maths either. Just managed a ‘basic pass’ in the exams when I was 16.
Best wishes, Pete. x
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We cant break great at everything! Your gifts make up for whatever skill you lack.
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I understand. No one seems as in the dark about the new Editor as me. I thought I got it, but ended up published 5 hours before I actually clicked the button! My settings haven’t change – so I’m on the aggravated side of dark!
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I waited for the penny to drop, GP. And I’m still waiting. đ
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I couldnât agree more!
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Thanks, Sejal. Pleased to hear that.
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I found it impossible to learn to play the recorder at school. I just used to mime! I am definitely not a musician. The OH is though and he plays by ear, he can’t read sheet music either.
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I just find Tech stuff so hard to grasp. It has taken me twenty years to manage the basics on a computer, and I still struggle some days.
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You just need a good teacher. Once that light bulb moment happens everything slips into place. Until then it’s like wading through treacle.
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Well I’m probably not going to do well at quantum physics, but can cope with most stuff đ
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We all have things we can do, and some we just don’t get. I was never that much good at sport either.
Best wishes, Pete.
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My nemesis is most tech stuff….it is so easy I am told….chuq
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My dad used to tell me how easy it was to build things with wood. When I couldn’t do what he showed me, he would become furious!
Best wishes, Pete.
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I can’t read maps especially when one is thrust at me by the driver who expects me to instantly give directions…Yet if I know the direction something is in then I just drive and take what I think is a turning in the correct direction and I get there ….:) x…I can see the way in my mind just not on a map…
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My wife is no good with maps. She doesn’t get the idea of ‘head north’, or ‘drive west’. I gave up trying to explain, and bought her a Satnav.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Its not just me then maybe its a woman thing…
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I once read an article claiming it is related to gender. Women used to stay by the cave/fire/children, and men had to wander long distances to hunt animals for food. Males developed a better idea of orientation, landmarks, and location. However, there are lots of women who did remarkable things involving maps, so that article is only a theory. đ
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I’m like that with trying to read sheet music. I just don’t get it!
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That’s the reason why I spent two years at school trying to learn to play a guitar and double bass, only to fail miserably at both. Sheet music was like Maths to me, equally indecipherable. đ
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As a younger person, I was pretty good reading music and playing the piano. Not so much, now. I guess it helps to have a piano available if you want to do things like that.
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