I didn’t always dislike Christmas.
As a child, I would ask to go to bed early on the 24th, so I could wake up and get all my presents when it was still dark. I am an only child, and though not spoiled, I was never short of a pile of presents from my mum and dad, as well as my extended family of uncles and aunts.
By the time my parents were awake, I had already read my Christmas Annuals books, and all of my toys and other gifts would have been opened and examined. Like most kids then, I dreaded receiving ‘sensible presents’, like clothing. But I will never complain about my childhood Christmases, as I can still remember the thrill of them. And I appreciated every gift, however small.
Then it was off to my maternal grandmother’s house, for a massive family Christmas lunch at 2 pm. Everyone would be there, and trestles would have been set up for a huge table top to rest on. Then every chair in the house, mismatched or not, would be crowded around so that everyone had a seat at the table. Before that happened, all the men would set off for the lunchtime drinking session in the nearby pub, while the women and older girls took on the mammoth task of preparing all the vegetables, and laying the table.
And all of this cooked in a single small gas oven, with a three-ring hob above.
The men would return just in time to sit and eat, still merry from too much beer and whisky. Then in the afternoon, they slept off the booze, while the exhausted women washed up and cleared away, ready to serve up the ‘Christmas Tea’. Assorted shellfish, bread and butter, lots of cakes, and anything sweet.
The evening would see a huge Christmas party. Crates of beer lined up in my grandmother’s parlour, the ‘good rug’ rolled up and stored away, and my aunt Edie exercising her skill on the piano as my dad and my uncle sang popular songs of the day, as well as wartime melodies. Everyone over the age of sixteen smoked, so the blue haze in the room would sting my young eyes as I sat enjoying the seasonal show.
When it got too late for me, I would sneak into my grandmother’s bedroom, and creep under the pile of coats laid on her bed. They included ancient furs that smelled of mothballs, and huge wool overcoats that had the aroma of tobacco.
I never really remembered my dad lifting me up to take me out to the car.
But I always woke up in my own bed on Boxing Day.
Do you still celebrate Christmas?
If so why?
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Because it is now just ‘tradition’. And because my wife and family enjoy the celebration. If I was on my own, it would have been ‘Friday’.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Did you know that there are some pagan roots in Christmas? As there are some of the other celebrations that Christians do as well.
It says in Deuteronomy 12 that God said not to worship Him the way the other nations worship their gods. Have you considered this verse? If God doesn’t want us – His people – to be worshiping Him the way that other people worship their gods, and if Christmas is pagan in practice and root, then why do most Christians today worship Him in that way?
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I am aware of the Pagan roots. But as I am not religious at all, I take little notice of anything in the Bible.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Then why do you celebrate Christmas?
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Because it is a tradition, it really is as simple as that. 🙂
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Have you ever read the bible?
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Yes, it was compulsory at school.
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Did you enjoy it?
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I don’t want to debate religion or religious issues on my blog, it’s not the platform for that. I respect the right of people to believe in their religion, and expect them to respect my right to believe it is all nonsense.
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That’s up to you, but now I leave you in the Lords hands.
Good day and good by.
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Beautiful memories!!! Can’t forget our childhood days
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Thanks for your comment, Christmas is still magical for so many youngsters.
Best wishes, Pete.
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“Christmas will always be as long as we stand heart to heart and hand in hand.” – Quote by Dr. Seuss
Have a wonderful Christmas and joyous days ahead with warm laughter. Take care.
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Thanks, Kally. I hope you had an enjoyable time.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Lovely memories
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Thanks very much. Glad you enjoyed them.
Best wishes, Pete.
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aww yes, much similar to my christmas even though you have a mum and mine is a mom, I hated clothes for christmas, yet today I am grateful I have never had to go through the trouble of buying socks or even boxer shorts in my entire life. My stocking seemed stuffed with them every single year. About smoking.. My cousins would throw out the snipes the butt of the cigarette i would run and grab them off the ground at grandmas house as they would mostly be still lit.. puff that last puff out of them.. It is probably their fault i am still a smoker today 30 something years later. Merry Christmas from Texas Y’all!
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Thanks for adding your own memories, Pancho. Glad to hear some of them are similar.
Best wishes, and Merry Christmas to you in Texas.
Pete.
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Lovely!! Well written 😃
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Thanks for our kind words.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Wasnt it a wonderful time? Visiting all the relatives and collecting the presents. As my parents had owned a toy shop too, it was honestly not great suprise awaiting the presents. But however a good deal. Lol Michael
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You were lucky to have a toy shop, Michael! 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Yes, but honestly if you had to see all the toys before boxing day it at least was not very surprising what you got. 😉
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Such beautiful storytelling!
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Thanks for your kind comment, Jen. I am glad you enjoyed the post.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Loved this! I just wrote about how I hate Christmas! Glad to know I’m not alone in having even a small dislike towards the holiday. Like yourself I used to be a fan of the holiday and loved the day back when I was younger
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Glad to find a kindred spirit! 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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This sounds really fun… for the men and small children!
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I talked to my mum about it when she was much older, and she said she really enjoyed it. I suppose they accepted the way things were, at least until the late 1960s.
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Such a delightful post, Pete. I also remember the smell of mothballs emanating from the winter furs.
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Glad you liked it. Happy to give you some memories. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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What a beautiful memory Pete!
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Thanks, Lara. Still fresh as ever, after 60+ years.
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The world has changed so much, Pete. Your Christmas sounds very nice.
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Those 1950s Christmases were feel-good family times, Robbie.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Yes, for my mother too, Pete.
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Wonderful childhood memories, Pete. I really enjoyed this post. Best to you.
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Thanks, Jennie. Sometimes that all feels like it happened yesterday. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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I know what you mean. Thank goodness the early memories are clear, especially as we get older. Best to you, Pete,
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Lovely, but not for the women it seems! Yes, I remember great Christmas parties as a child with all the older generation singing and dancing into the small hours. The younger generation just want to look at their phones. It’s not the same somehow…
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Electronic entertainment killed all that. I have seen numerous examples of people crowded around video games, or staring at new laptops ot tablets without making any conversation at all.
As for the ‘old days’, the women were certainly put-upon, though I never remember them complaining much. Perhaps they only did that amongst themselves?
Best wishes, Pete.
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It was expected of them I think, and so they bore their lot with fortitude. Times have changed. Sam always washes up after any meal, and helps around the house with any household job. My dad used to help too, but my grandfathers would have considered domestic duties ‘women’s work’.
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Great memories…..I wish I could go there….but since Mom died Christmas Day it has been just another day but with lots of food. chuq
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I can understand that, chuq.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Great memories Pete 🙂
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Cheers mate. Life seemed so much simpler then.
Best wishes, Pete.
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You wrote this so vividly Pete, I felt like I was there. I especially love the image of you as a small boy falling asleep under all those coats!☺️
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Thanks very much, Kim. If I concentrate hard, I can still smell those coats. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Beautiful memories of Christmas as it should be.
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Thanks, Peggy. The families all lived so close together then. I couldn’t imagine trying to arrange something similar now.
Best wishes, Pete.
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As I read this, Pete, I thought surely there had to be a part two because your comments about the holiday have definitely shifted. I so loved reading this, though. This is what I love most about blogs – getting the insight into the lives of other people’s lives and how we are both similar and also different. And what exactly is Boxing Day? I am familiar with the term and I know when it is but I never knew ‘what’ it was.
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Boxing Day is a very old name given to the 26th. It comes from a time when most people still worked on Christmas Day, (as evidenced in Dickens’ A Christmas Carol) but many people, including house servants, would be allowed to have the next day off to visit their families. It is still a public holiday in England, and if it falls on a weekend, we get the following Monday off instead. Here’s an ‘official’ explanation.
‘The name comes from a time when the rich used to box up gifts to give to the poor. Boxing Day was traditionally a day off for servants, and the day when they received a special Christmas box from their masters. The servants would also go home on Boxing Day to give Christmas boxes to their families.’
Best wishes, Pete.
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Oh, wow. Thanks for explaining, Pete. I had no idea!
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It was a nice balance for your grumpy side! At least Julie is keeping the tradition going for the grandkids once the covid has passed.
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Thanks, Elizabeth. I wasn’t always grumpy. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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And you aren’t always grumpy now either.
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Wonderful memories – though your comment to Fraggle has made me wonder what exactly part two will contain.
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Thanks, Mary. No real drama to come. Just growing up, and the loss of al the things I wrote about here.
Best wishes, Pete.
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So I learned a bit more about Pete, you’re an only, you are grateful for gifts big and small, and you know the best places to nap! Loved the memories of Christmas past, let your heart be light, C
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Thanks, Cheryl. They were simpler times, but no less cherished.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Terrific memories Pete…thanks for sharing!
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Thanks, John. Working class life in London, before 1963.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Just like here in the “good old days” (childhood). One hell of a lot of work for femaies. Warmest regards, Theo
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Yes, it seemed as if they never sat down, Theo.
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You definitely capture the sights, sounds and even the smells of Christmas past! Well done Pete! 🙂
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Thanks very much, Susanne. It seems like yesterday, when I think hard abou it. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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(1) Jed Clampett was fond of Texas tea, but he never drank it.
(2) Christmas Annuities are better than Christmas Annuals.
(3) When all the men in the pub gathered at three round tables in order to drink sociably, they formed a three-ring hobnob.
(4 And then one Christmas, grandma accidentally got rolled up in the ‘good rug’—stored away until Boxing Day, at which time the drunk revelers who had rolled her up got their ears boxed by grandma!
(5) My friend Rudolph claims that the menfolk at grandma’s house ended up with red noses after all that drinking.
(6) My friend Barbara claims that Santa Claus is married to Santa Monica, and that Santa Cruz is married to Santa Clarita.
(7) My friend Mary Jane claims that everyone over the age of sixteen smoked. When I asked her if they were smoking cigarettes, she said, “Close, but no cigar!”
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I don’t know if you have ‘Annuals’ in the USA, David. Here’s an idea of some current ones.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=christmas+annuals+2020&adgrpid=77411515905&gclid=Cj0KCQiA5bz-BRD-ARIsABjT4ng74COFmF0L4HT7fxQ1Z2Ptj6saKpDh1uwM5DWc8DDDcK9Fe4sZGB4aAnPsEALw_wcB&hvadid=381615429049&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9044864&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=5740163323583262976&hvtargid=kwd-818558599636&hydadcr=11889_1766837&tag=googhydr-21&ref=pd_sl_7vt2vadsf7_e
Best wishes, Pete.
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What a wonderful post, Pete! Loved the ancient furs smelling of mothballs. Although I wouldn’t have appreciated being one of those women, haha.
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Thanks, Marina. Most of those were fox-furs, and all pre-WW2!
They only appeared at Christmas, and winter funerals. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Great memories Pete. I do miss the colder Christmas by the fire. Having a BBQ just doesn’t capture the day for me We didn’t have a large family so the day was just the 3 of us (Mum, Dad and a very spoilt little boy)
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I remember your mum and dad very well, Bobby. Taking the O2 cylinder to Preston, so your dad could breathe at the wedding!
Cheers, Pete.
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We had similar Christmases when I was married to the first Mr.Fraggle, all round to his mums house for a big dinner and the men went off to the social club. Put me off for life!
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It had a similar effect on me, FR. Look out for part two. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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Great memories! Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks, Darlene. An alternative to my usual ‘grumpy’ Christmas posts. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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