(**Update**. I am aware that so many people are spending birthdays alone today, or worse still, in hospital. This post is not meant to suggest that either Julie or I are badly off, in any way.)
Most of us feel something different about birthdays that announce a new decade. Whether it is 30, 40, 50, or even 80, there is undeniably something special about them. When you are 20, you are no longer a teenager, and if you see your 90th year, you are doing pretty well even in this day and age.
My wife Julie is 60 today. Bad enough having a January birthday in winter weather and so soon after Christmas in any year. But in one of the worst periods in living memory, a lockdown birthday when you have to go to work puts the tin hat on it.
When I was 50, Julie treated me to a long weekend in Rome. It was mid-March, and we enjoyed exceptionally warm weather. When she was 50, I took her to Prague to celebrate. Cold but dry, and very interesting. A couple of years ago, we started to plan where to go for Julie’s 60th. A few days in a place neither of us had ever been. Perhaps Valetta in Malta, or Gibraltar. Our neighbour kindly offered to take care of Ollie in our absence. Our plan was to book that holiday in January 2020, a year in advance.
Well, we all know what happened.
On the 26th of December, the second lockdown arrived. I couldn’t take her into Norwich to choose her special gift from the jeweller’s shop, as it is non-essential. And the restaurant where we had hoped to celebrate can only supply a takeaway meal. The one we had chosen doesn’t offer that option.
That leaves Julie celebrating her big Six-O with no gift from me, and an Indian takeaway that we could have any other night of the week. And she has had to go into work. As she works for the NHS in a local doctor’s, it would have seemed rather lame to request holiday leave because it is her birthday.
And just to remind us that we live in Beetley, and it is January, it has been raining solidly for 24 hours.
Happy Birthday, Julie.
Happy Birthday Dear Julie!!!!! 60 is only a beginning!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Lara. I have passed on all the good wishes to her.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday, to your wife, Pete! I am sorry, beeing late again, and apologize for it. I hope you had a nice celebration. Best wishes, Michael
LikeLiked by 1 person
It was a good day, Michael. We made the best of what was available to do.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great news, and very deserved by you.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Or is it better not to bring that up right now? 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Where did you go for your 60th?
LikeLiked by 1 person
I had to come up to Norfolk, as Julie was already living here. It was a bad week. I retired on the 12th of March. My mum died on the 14th of March, and my birthday was the 16th. We went to the north coast that night, and had dinner on a Dutch Barge. Pancakes and waffles, my choice. I wasn’t feeling it, as you might imagine. But Julie bought me a wonderful (and very expensive) limited edition framed print, by my favourite artist, Stephen Wiltshire. I had to return to London soon after, for my retirement leaving ‘do’, and to try to sort out my mum’s funeral and clearing out her flat. Between the 14th of March and the end of April was the most tiring and stressful time in my life. I was drinking two bottles of wine every night, just to be able to sleep.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hectic as the kids say or was that what was said when I was a kid? It was certainly all happening around your 60th but your nee life came from it and living permanently with zjulie was a nice outcome. Your Mum lives on in you and that is a good thing.
LikeLiked by 1 person
You’ve had some wonderful birthday trips over the years. Also if it takes the edge off, I’ve gone into work on many birthday and thought why didn’t I take the day off? 😉
LikeLiked by 1 person
I never worked on my birthday after 1990.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Good drills.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I think Malta or Gibraltar in a couple of years sounds like a good idea. They say 62 is the new 60. As it is, I know you guys love a good curry. Happy birthday Julie, thank you for tireless work that carries with it a great deal of risk and stress. I’m sure you take great care of the patients. Stay safe and best wishes Pete and Julie and Ollie.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I will be 69 in March. Holidays abroad seem like a distant memory. The last one we had was in 2011.
Thanks for your kind words, Lloyd.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
I get that but Malta or Gibraltar could work. See where you’re at in two years. Somebody will have to turn 70 sooner or later too.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Best wishes Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
(1a) “When I was 50, Julie treated me to a long weekend in Rome.” Weekends here in Las Vegas are way too short. Saturday and Sunday only add up to 48 hours. How many hours are in a Roman weekend?
(1b) I was going to book a Roman holiday, but was told Audrey Hepburn was no longer in town.
(2) At my 10th birthday party, I was told to put my ten hat on.
(3) Bad citation: “Our neighbour kindly offered to take care of Olly in our absence.” (Angela and Leah were occupied elsewhere. Good thing the Pakistani lady was available.)
(4) “That leaves Julie celebrating her big Six-O with no gift from me…” I wanted to celebrate my big Five-O in Hawaii.
(5) Did you perform a rain dance while Julie was eating her Indian food?
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY TO YOUR WIFE, JULIE!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks for Julie’s birthday wishes, David.
Fri/Sat/Sun/Mon qualifies as a long weekend for me. 🙂
I was hoping for a Hepburn-Peck reference, and you didn’t let me down! 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
A big Happy Birthday to Julie! A shout out on WP might not be a big trip or a lovely gift, but at least she is getting birthday wishes from all over the world. That’s something! This month was our 45th, our children have birthdays (one turning the big four-O), and grandchildren have birthdays, too (one becoming a teenager). Sigh! Somedays it’s harder than others to remember to be grateful, isn’t it?
LikeLiked by 1 person
It turned out really well in the end. Five bouquets of flowers arrived by delivery, as well as numerous gifts. Julie got almost 200 Facebook messages, and was delighted with her international blog comments too. Then she had Face Time with friends and family on her Tablet, followed by a very tasty Indian meal. We both appreciated things could have been very much worse.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
That’s wonderful, Pete!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Firstly, happy birthday Julie. Sounds like despite the change of plans you made the most of it. I can understand the disappointment re the celebrations, my son turned 18 in November and we couldn’t do anything. He has ASD and this was one of those events he had been a bit obsessed with over the years and discussed many times e.g. officially becoming an adult, being able to vote, tell his mum that she could no longer tell him what to do (we debated that one lol), go to the pub etc. I had said we would hire a room in one of our locals and have food, family and friends. There were so many elements to it that he was looking forward to – first proper drink in a pub with his mates, (they’re not really drinkers as prefer gaming and have never ventured into one lol) family get-together, presents etc. He was gutted when we realised it couldn’t happen. I reminded him it’s only on hold. We will get round to it when it’s safe to do so. The important thing is knowing that the intentions are there and as much as we wanted to share it with him, the health and safety of our family and so many others comes first. These certainly are strange (and sometimes scary) times for everyone but we do what we can, when we can with the best of intentions.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Siobhain. Julie managed to really enjoy her birthday, thanks in part to Face Time with family and friends, and deliveries arriving all day containing bouquets and presents.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Good to hear she had a good day after all, Happy Birthday Julie!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Eddy. She was still receiving flowers and cards up until yesterday afternoon. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Happy Birthday Julie. Make sure that when you can finally get out you take one splendid vacation and get two pieces of jewelry!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Elizabeth. I have passed on all the nice messages to Julie.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy birthday, Julie!
We went into the November lockdown the day before my 40th birthday and we had to cancel all our plans, which also involved going for dinner in London. We had initially planned to go to South Africa but that went out the window pretty early. I took it very hard to start but so many of my friends made an effort to spoil me and send me gifts and cards. I did manage to take the day off work and spent it on my own, which is a huge treat for me. That said, part of being human is celebrating our milestones and I really hope we get to do it again soon.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Abbi. Julie actually managed to enjoy her day, thanks to lots of gifts and flowers arriving by post, and Face Time with her family and friends.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
I’m sure in her heart of hearts, Julie knows what’s important, and I’m confident that she will be happy spending her special birthday with her special person. All the very best to Julie, of course. It’s interesting what you say about turning 20: do you think 18- and 19-year olds still think of themselves as teenagers? I always find it curious how the media choose to describe young people of that age, generally according to the subject matter of the piece, rather than adopting a consistent approach, given that in England anyway, 18-year olds are regarded as adult, in the eyes of the law. Cheers, Jon.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Julie really enjoyed her birthday despite everything, Jon.
My idea of being a teenager is outdated of course. I went to work at 17, voted in elections at 18, but I was never considered to be ‘grown up’ until I was 21. That was in the early 1970s though, a very long time ago now. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
Happy Birthday to Julie, Pete…I’m sure you can make it up to her once or when this is over xx
LikeLiked by 1 person
She actually had a very enjoyable day. Thanks to being around her work colleagues, Face-Time with her family, and lovely gifts delivered after being bought online.
Thanks, Carol.
Best wishes, Pete. x
LikeLiked by 1 person
That’s good to hear, Pete it’s not nice to miss our milestones even though we know the reasons why :)x
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy birthday to Julie. May her next birthday be a special one safely way from home.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you, Lauren. As it turned out, she had a very enjoyable day, even allowing for the situation.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Good to hear.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday Julie! May next year’s special day make up for all that couldn’t be this year – – –
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks very much, TamrahJo.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I turned 60 a few months ago Pete, Larry had a few close friends drive by and honk horns while we sipped wine in the driveway. Not exactly how I was hoping to celebrate my 60th. We’re planning on doing something fun when things open back up, could be a year from now? Tell Julie Happy Birthday from an old girl in California! Cheers, C
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Cheryl. She was surprised to hear I had done a blog post for her birthday, and that she was receiving good wishes from all around the world. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday, Julie! May you have 60 more! (Assuming you WANT to be 120!) The bad news was given in Pete’s post, but the good news is that you “are “still here.” Still on this side of the ground, you have hundreds of options. Once Covid has been vanquished (and it will be), you guys can go anywhere — everywhere. You have each other. (Everybody doesn’t have someone who loves them so much they complain because they can’t “do” for them or give them gifts. What a blelssing.) You both have Ollie. You have your good health — that was a possible obstacle you (and we, with you) side-stepped last year. I’m so glad you’re still here! I love Pete’s stories and I love that you make him happy. Thank you, Julie, for being. Happy Birthday and God bless you and Pete and Ollie today and every single day to come.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks very much for your lovely kind words, dear Mona.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
Somehow I got all messed up on which birthdays were “special.” I owe it all to Jack Benny. When I was a child, my family listened to the Jack Benny show on the radio for decades and once we got a television, we watched the Jack Benny show there too. Now, the thing is Jack Benny was forever 39 or he was always having his 39th Birthday. So, I got the notion, very young that 39 was Special. (I guess you could say I was an impressionable kid). So, unlike my peers who all strove to be 21 (then the drinking and voting age in Americal). I looked forward to my 39th Birthday. So, I had, in my mind, one special Birthday when I was 39. It must have been one hell of a doozy for I don’t remember that day at all. Despite my experience, I wish Julie the best damned birthday ever. Warmest Regards. Theo
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Theo. I had a pretty good 39th too. But my 40th was even better. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
Happy Birthday Julie, on the bright side it will be one to remember and knowing you Pete I’m sure you will more than make up for the postponed celebration. Keep safe.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Bobby. I’m sure we will do something to compensate for yesterday at some stage.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
Well, I will probably be celebrating my 60th birthday in June alone this year. But it’s far better than dying alone of COVID-19 in a hospital. So look on the bright side, and happy birthday to Julie.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks for your positive thoughts, Abbie. I am sorry to hear you will be alone on your 60th, but I hope you manage to celebrate in some way. Julie’s birthday turned out very well, thatnks to the modern innovations of ‘Face-Time’, and deliveries ordered online.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Wishing Julie a very Happy Birthday. Right now enjoying good health is the best gift!! Enjoy your evening together.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Darlene. We enjoyed the meal, and we are just relaxing now. Lots of phone calls! 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday Julie
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks very much, Janet.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
Hi Pete, it is rather disappointing, but maybe you will have an opportunity to celebrate Julie’s birthday later in the year. Nothing lasts for ever and there is the vaccine too.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, it wasn’t really a big moan, just a bit sad when we had plans for her 60th.
We can wait until 2022, I’m sure.
Thanks, Robbie.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sounds like a good celebration to me, going out isn’t much fun now anyway even if it was possible. And definitely go to Malta, so much there. Stay in Valletta as all the buses leave from there so you don’t need a car. Gozo is a nice trip too and we even visited Sicily for a day on an organised coach trip.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks for the tips, Jude. Might happen in 2022, when I will be 70! 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.x
LikeLike
I’m thinking my 70th might be my next overseas holiday! I spent my 60th on holiday here in Penzance. Seems so long ago.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Pete, wish Julie a happy happy birthday…the thought is always there even if circumstances don’t allow the celebration you had planned…there will be time for that!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, John. She did very well with presents, cards, and three large floral bouquets delivered. Online buying worked for her lockdown birthday. 🙂
Indian meal being collected by me at 6:30, so she’s happy enough.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
And I hope the beverage of her choice will end the night as well!
LikeLiked by 1 person
She’s on Gin and Tonic, John. I chose a nice Cabernet-Shiraz. (Organic too!) 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Both terrific choices Pete – cheers to you both!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sounds wonderful. 😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
High Tea is a great tradition here, so it was great to be able to have it delivered as a gift. 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday to Julie. I wish it could be more special but hopefully you can make it up sometime soon. I had a birthday in September during a phase that allowed indoor dining. We too are in stricter lockdown currently with takeout only. Difficult times but I’m happy you both are well.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Susanne. She is only just finishing opening her presents from friends and family. And we also had a special ‘High Tea’ delivered.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I know it stinks not being able to celebrate such a special day. Still, happy birthday to Julie and maybe you can do something special next year instead to make up for it.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Let’s hope so.
Thanks very much, Jeanne.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday, Julie! 🎂
These are difficult times and trying to celebrate seems impossible. I am hopeful we will get through these horrible times and you will be able to take a holiday and celebrate in grand style when it is finally safe.
LikeLiked by 1 person
We are making the best of the day, and will worry about foreign travel when it is safe and secure.
Thanks, Maggie.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Enjoy your day!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hi Pete
Aw what a shame, sure you’ll make up for it with extra celebrations when you are able. Hope you are all well, pretty miserable at the moment isn’t it! Lots of love to you both and a big hug and Happy Birthday to Julie 💗
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hi Helen,
Thanks for your good wishes. Lovely to see you on here, and my love to you and all the family.
Best wishes, Pete. xx
LikeLike
She got the best present she could have. SHe has a caring husband and you are both alive 🙂 Happy Birthday, Julie!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks for your kind words, Margie.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
A Happy Birthday to her, and many many happy returns,
Pit
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks very much, Pit.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
happy birthday to Julie! i’m sure you’ll make up for it Pete. perhaps a trip when she turns 61. regards.
LikeLiked by 1 person
We will arrange something when we are sure it can happen.
Thanks, Wilma.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy birthday to Julie!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, FR. She should be home soon.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday to Julie….and at least she doesn’t live alone…..
LikeLiked by 1 person
Very true. Thanks, Sue.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
It is one downside of being a hero. It is difficult to leave your job behind. Well, she is 60 and going to be in this decade for long. So, you can take her out and celebrate as soon as it is safe.
LikeLiked by 1 person
That is what we will do, Shaily. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday Julie, from snowy Scotland…
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks very much. At least we have no snow! (Yet) 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday Julie. Thank goodness you’re together and safe.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks very much, dear Kim.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I can certainly understand you wanting to give your wife a superb birthday, but think of how many things have had to be put on hold for other people. Just grin and bear it as the saying goes and plan for something even larger than Gibraltar when the lockdowns are finished!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I am aware that life is awful for so many others, GP. This post wasn’t meant to taken too seriously. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
No? I am curious though – what are you two planning for a future celebration?
LikeLiked by 1 person
We are hoping for a trip to Malta. Might have to be in 2022 though.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
At least she hasn’t got Covid! It was our 40th wedding anniversary last October and the kids had planned a surprise. Unfortunately we never found out what it was due to Covid restrictions. However, I think they might be saving it for our 50th!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, we are grateful for our health, and aware that others are experiencing much worse birthdays. That never leaves our minds, Stevie.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday, Julie!
I hope you have a great day, in spite of the weather, work, pandemic, and Pete. 😉
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Ian. I will attempt to stay ‘cheerful’. 🙂
Cheers, Pete.
LikeLike
Happy Birthday Julie….be well and be safe….chuq
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks very much, chuq.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy Birthday Julie. It’s the thought that counts,Pete. Valetta would have been better than Gibraltar. The architecture is fascinating and the pea pies delicious.
I have a birthday later in the month and we are going to celebrate with one of my Christmas puddings. I always make three, My special one is 2022 but as it is the age when folk treat you as ancient I’m not looking forward to it. Perhaps if we go somewhere interesting instead of having a party?
We did go on a river cruise for one anniversary but it would be great to get the family together as we missed out this Christmas. We did as we were told and kept apart and expect to do the same this year. A vaccine for my birthday ,perhaps? That would be good.
Hubby is a few months younger than me but still over 75 so perhaps we can go together. I just don’t fancy going at 3am in the morning now they are boasting about making it 24 hours!
It’s raing here, too and I’m not going out.
Best Wishes.
LikeLiked by 1 person
raining!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I have to go out in the rain soon to walk Ollie. I don’t have the luxury of choice. Thanks for your tip about Valetta/Gibraltar, and I hope you have a great birthday whatever you decide to do. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
“Valetta would have been better than Gibraltar”
I’ve not been to Malta, but I agree. Gibraltar is just about big enough for a day out.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Ian. Good to know.
Cheers, Pete.
LikeLike
Happy Birthday to your wife. And I hope you‘ll be able to make up, together, for what she had to miss today. Maybe if all of this is possible again in a year, for her 61st birthday instead (even if you can‘t book the trip a year in advance)?
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks, Themis. We will do it some other time, if things ever change.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Such a shame… but being able to be together to share the evening is at least something.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh it is. We are so much luckier than many people, and are aware of that.
Thanks, Sue.
Best wishes, Pete.
LikeLike
I hope your wife has a wonderful birthday, Pete.
LikeLiked by 1 person